Was this rude of her?..?
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she should of said hi in English back. but other then that she wasn't rude. my husband is the same way. he is of Mexican decent, only knows a little bit of Spanish and hates it when other Hispanic people assume he knows Spanish and tries to speak it to him. he doesn't want to speak Spanish and they have the nerve to get mad at him!
so she has every right to speak English and only English if she so chooses. her ethnicity has nothing to do with what language she should know.
if that were true, i should know Chinese,french, and English since that is my ethnicity's...but i don't and i don't want to because i live in the united states.
Yes, it was rude of her and I agree with her completely.
Yes it was , but she could have said hello in English and that would have been the end of it .
Tough situation. Most of the Hispanics I encounter at restaurants or fast-food places, for example, can hardly speak English. Maybe this is what they have come to expect through their experiences with other Hispanic people, and they were just trying to be friendly with her. Or, like me, maybe they're learning Spanish and want to "test it out" on a native speaker?
I don't think it's something to freak out over. Obviously, if you're in America, you'd do best to learn the language if you want to get along. It doesn't have to be such a decisive issue.
I think your friend is right in her feelings,there should be more like her. It was rude to say nothing to the customer,she should have explained her position but there was no rudeness in not responding in spanish.
Well, she could have just said "Hello" back to them and then it wouldn't have been rude. They would realize then that she doesn't want to speak Spanish and if they want to communicate with her they should do it in English. I think it is rude when I say "Hello" to someone and they do not respond with "Hello" back to me.
I think it was very rude. I would greet anyone who greeted me, why would the language make a difference? I can't speak Spanish or any other language but English, but a friendly Hello I can manage. Would your friend feel the same way if the person was speaking German?
No she is not rude,apparently she took the leagal way to get here and realizes that English is the language of her chosen country,to her I can say"welcome sister"
I like your friend all ready. I wish everyone felt that way. I do think she was a little rude though. she probably could have just answered them in English, they should have got the hint then. If they continue to speak Spanish to her then she should just tell them she prefers English. Its easy to let yourself have a bad attitude about these things. I've had to stop myself from acting like that too. I work in a hospital and I can get so mad when a patient can't speak English. I think if you move to a country to live for any length of time you should learn the language. no matter how frustrating it may be though we still should try to be nice to everyone.
I think it's rude. I don't speak Spanish but I speak German, and I have never met a German in America that didn't appreciate it when I greeted them in German. It's not like those people at the restaurant were degrading her. They were probably trying to be charming and friendly. She was the unfriendly one it sounds like. Not her job to be rude in the service industry. Tell her to lighten up. If she wants to blend in to American culture she's not going to by being rude.
Aufwiedersehen.
It's not good business etiquette. She would do better to reply, and a nice, friendly English greeting is called for. If she can pull it off, with no accent, a straight-faced "sorry, I don't speak Spanish" will drive the point home, especially if delivered with a smile.
I agree with Lisa's response.
Good manners are not based on the language one speaks, nor are they based on one's ethnicity.
Your friend is overly defensive and rude.
Whether one says, "Guten Morgin/Auben" (sp? German), "Hola'", or "How the hell are you", the appropriate response is, at the very least, "Hello."
Oh please, your friend needs to grow up...If I were the manager I would have let her have it.Its not about language, its about culture, and if she gets offended by her own culture, she is pathetic.
qué niña mimada!
If she's a hostess she should reply in some way! She's the PR for that establishment. On the other hand I'm just a plain old white person and sometimes I say ola! or whatever, I bet the customer didnt even mean anything by it. But my point remains, she's the HOSTESS after all, the meeter greeter if you will. Maybe your friend was just having "one of those those days" that day.
Her lack of response in any language could be interpreted as rude.
In many states, English is the "official" language while conducting business.
Hooray for her! She is working to be an American and I applaud her!
She could have said Hello back but there is no "rule" that says she must speak Spanish.
It was rude not to respond at all like she did, but it's not rude if she had responded in English.
She's probably scared to death that someone will mistake her for an illegal, but she could have responded with a hello. It is the height of rudeness to not acknowledge a greeting no matter what language it was in. She won't go far in the restaurant business or any other if she's to good to speak to people.
I can guarantee you that she deserved no tip and probably hurt the chances that her waiter got a tip. I don't care what language you or I speak, if I am the customer you treat me with respect. Thats the American principle. The customer is ALWAYS right. As host, her job is to make sure that customers WANT TO come to that establishment. In my opinion her refusal to reply deserves a warning from her boss and, if repeated, is worthy of dismissal. If its her own business then she has the right to fail, but when she is working as a hostess in a restaurant intentionally increasing the chances that customers will not return is a fireable offense.
The customer is always right! They didn't do anything out of line, so she should take her personal feelings and keep them out of the business. I'm sure her employers don't want her treating customers rudely because of her own issues.
Yes, it was rude. It is her JOB as host to great every customer politely and courteously. She needs to leave her personal opinions at the door when she comes to work.
I would have fired her on the spot.
Yes it was rude as a hostess in a restaurant.. it is her job to be nice to customers.. no customers, no money regardless of what language they speak.. if she didn't want to speak Spanish, she should have said hi in English and not ignore them.
It was rude especially because she is a "host". Her feelings about the language probably stem from the situation of immigration and the whole controversy lately. Think about it Everyone yelling Speak English English English over and over again and then you have anyone come up to you and speak Spanish. hmmmmm that would probably make you think it was being done in a demeaning way wether it was or not don't you think? Your friend holds the unfortunate decision to greet them or to give it back to them. Knowing Hispanics personally I know that if someone is being put down the last thing a Hispanic person would do would cow down and take an insult. Saving face in Latin american or mexican culture is a direct statement to your character and self worth. No self respecting hispanic is going to take a sarcastic greeting or belittling comment lying down. Its a thing of pride when someone has a strong and spicy temperament. So even if the people meant it as a sarcasim or not that's probably the way your friend took it. Also with the issue on immigration you also have some non hispanic going out of their way to be extra nice to hispanics. Some of these people are so fonny it makes you want to throw up. They probably go to their church that next Sunday with a real self odorning feeling. uuuck.
shes right. why should she have to speak it? she wants to fit in here and talking spanish isnt the way to do that i lived in venezuela for a while and americans would talk to me in english on the street and it pissed me off. now if approached me and asked me if i spoke english in broken spanish then id give them a break but your friend is right the restraunt doesnt pay her to speak spanish and this is america so latinos shouldnt assume she speaks spanish cause she looks latina she should take them to the dishes and say ok you can start here hahahaha
It was rude! In a bilingual society, where even our politics make big efforts to reach out entire comunities in spanish, this is a not a big deal, although my preference would be to her answer in English with a delicate smile.
How sad for us all... the disputes about immigration and arguments about who should speak what and when, are a pathetic commentary.
Your friend is wrapped up in finding something to be offended by. Instead... a customer took a moment, to do what they intended as being friendly. She makes the choice to find something offensive, instead of choosing to look at others as persons, irregardless of what language they speak.
I sure wish we all could stop being hostile over such petty things, and start being decent human beings.
Yes, it was. She could have at least said "hi." But if she wouldn't have been a Hispanic, then no, it wouldn't have been rude for her to ignore them.
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