HELP US please! How can we be together and make our dreams come true 6000 miles apart?
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Where is she from? Could she get an au pair or working holidaymaker visa for UK? How about a student visa? The thing is, these are just temporary visas, so what would yu do at the end of that time?
It is very difficult for people from outside Europe to come to the UK. It may be easier for you to go and visit her there. If you are really serious about her, you should think about how you can live together. Would you be prepared if necessary to live in her country? If not, then I'm afraid you should accept the reality of your situation, it's just not meant to be.
She could of course apply to come as your fiancee, or you could marry her in her country and she could apply to come as your spouse. You would need to be able to show that you couls support and accommodate her. For both your sakes, you need to be sure what you're doing and why.
If you're really so serious about each other, what's wrong with her going to the States for a year? You could always visit her there. Don't be so possessive! It would be a valuable experience for her before committing herself to leaving her country for good.
Move?
don't try and force anyone to love you, let her go to the U.S...
I don't know man. Love always finds a way. Good luck though bro.
Forget her because as soon as she gets to the USA, she will look for a US Citizen husband so she can stay.
Move on. The pain might be hard now, but it will be harder later.
Best of luck.
I spent April to November of last year away from my wife and will be away from the end of next month until April 2008 and this has been on going for the last six years don't worry if ya cant see her for a while. absence make the heart grow fonder, and if its supposed to happen then you'll be together no matter what. good luck mate
Sorry, abscence does not make the heart grow fonder. Instead it can destroy love and relationships.
Internet relationships are different. You can talk to someone on a computer for many years and not be directly involved in their life. It is fantasy world. People say things on the computer to others that they would never say to their face. They can talk up their personality, their past, their future and embellish anything they wish. It is easy and it happens all day everyday.
Now since you said you met her and you now love her. How does she feel?
If she fell in love with you in person in just two short weeks, she would do anything to be with you (even give up this job). But if she is unsure of your relationship she will carry on with her plans and try to figure it out. If she is 27 and never been married, you need to find out why. The average age for marriage is 22 yrs old.
You do not say what country she is from, this will tell us alot. Asians think one way, Italians another, and Americans another. This is important too in your relationship. Where is her family and can she be away from them? Or are you willing to live in Russia or China or wherever she is from.
Auppair work in the US is not so hot. The pay is low and you can have long hours if you do your job right. I had an auppair when my boys were small from France. She rarely looked after my kids, never cooked, never cleaned, and basically spend her time in the US in the party scene. She even brought home boyfriends as she had a private unit in our home. She did not fit in and was not friendly. I was paying her for nothing and being her mother too.
If she is her more than 2 months she will have fun and make friends to have fun with. It is common.
You need to get her to your country. Find her a job there and let her come and see how she likes it there. If she really loves you she will come. Tell her no strings attached, you want her to try it. You can not be apart it will destroy the relationship.
Kiss her goodbye. She didn't bother to become fluent in English, and then have a job opportunity open up in America, so she could come here for a year, and then go back to her piece of crap country of origin. You, over there in the UK, may turn out to be her "plan B" if things here don't quite work out. so keep your fingers crossed.
Where is she from?
There are hundreds of Poles coming to the UK every day and they haven't got visas. They just get on a plane and apply for a job and National Insurance number.
Depending on where she is from, can't your girlfriend do a similiar thing - stay with you and look for a job?
Take heed of the warnings on here though, these foreign girls can have hidden agendas. My Polish girlfriend moved in with me, had three of her friends live with me, and when they all went back to Poland she called our relationship off - basically used me for somewhere to stay while they earned money.
I think you'll be ok though, after all, you have known her for 4 years so I would think she is genuine enough.
You'll find some advice about Working Visas here:
http://www.workingintheuk.gov.uk/working...
Good luck. I hope (both) your dreams do come true.
6,000 miles are we talking Singapore or Thailand way?
Are you officially engaged to be married?
Contact the immigration service. It is 15 years since may wife and I were married. It takes time but there are procedures to follow. Get the information first as it is easier if you follow correct procedures.
This need not be affected by any visit to the USA to work.
It can take 6months to a year to go through the process, it can take only a few weeks but there are costs involved.
If she has the chance to go to the USA to work don't stop her, this will actually help your case in the long run. If she loves you as much as you love her she will be patient knowing you are completing the necessary paperwork.
Get the information as then your fiance will arrive on the correct visa and it becomes easy to follow the rest of the procedures to get indefinate stay and also allows her to work.
what a wonderful expression of love, however it suspiciously sounds like a Thai bride thingamyjig. Just go with the flow and don't let your heart rule your head on this one.
You don't say where she is from but it sounds like she is using you just to get a visa for the UK, sounds a bit fishy to me. Suggest moving to her country, see how keen and loved up with you she is then! Be careful, it sounds like she has schemed this whole thing via the net and found someone vulnerable whom she can use!
go vist her and then u can invite her to the uk as a visitor, and if u guys are still very seriuos then u marry her that way she can come her anyway.
be careful u might be one of many men she has internet relationships with.
if you are really serious about each other as you say,i suggest you marry her,take that risk,God bless
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