I'm 15 yrs old and have a one month old baby. My husband is in jail and is getting deported. What should i do?
Answer:
you need to find your parents and get your life together... seriously...
get a new husband , JAIL is not a place for good guys...
Do the selfless thing and give that baby up for adoption to a loving 2 parent home where they can actually take care of that child.
u gotta go with your man!
In this order
1. Give the kid up for adoption
2. Divorce the guy
3. tubular ligation, now
4. Get good education and then find a guy that isn't a criminal to have kids with.
1. You re and idiot.
2. Leave that bum alone
3. Go educate yourself.
4. You can do better
apparently he's not really your husband, otherwise he would be a citizen by marriage, and not be getting deported. secondly, either move to mexico and make the best of it, grow up and take care of the kid yourself, or give it up for adoption and keep your legs closed. good luck
As a middle age man who is a father, my advice to you is give the child up for adoption. Go to school, get a good job and a better husband.
How are you only 15 and married?
seeing as your 15 i think that you should get him charged with statutory rape. I hope the sick bastard stays there , we dont need any more child molesters in this country
So, you got knocked up by an illegal when you were what? 14!!
He's a loser, you're a HO, and your kid is an illegal! LEAVE!
You should have matured earlier- Now if you want to remain a family move to Mexico or if you want to stay here - get an education - a career - a family structure and make sure your child gets whatever it is that you didn't. Life is only fair for those who work for it
well its your choice. but if you want real advice then hear is two things:
1. get your life together and divorce him a guy in jail, not the right person for you
2 go with him and live a life with your single family, start a brand new life in Mexico.meet new people, have your child and your husband happy, try to be happy yourself also,and be happy. ITS YOUR CHOICE
i dont think you have a clear idea of what your in for when you move to mexico
Well, if you don't want to move to Mexico then just find a new man.
I don't know what your past circumstances are, but it's a good bet that if your husband is in jail, he's a bad hombre. Besides that,15 years old is too young to be married and have a kid.
Get in touch with your parents or someone like your priest and explain that you need help. You don't say if you love your husband, so I don't know what to tell you further.
If you don't love him and you don't care if he gets deported, then just let him go! He can't force you to go with him because he will go right from jail to deportation.
On the other hand, if you are still in 'love' with him, then get in touch with your parents or an adult who can give you some guidance.
You are still a minor, so you cannot go to Mexico with him; that might be considered statutory rape if he tries to force you.
he is not your husband or else he would not have been facing deportation. unless they found out this was a fraudulent marriage. these are just things you should have thought of before you became pregnant. suffer the consequences for your actions. To me, he should be in jail for knocking up a 14 year old. give the baby up because obviously this scenario is too dysfunctional for him. Your parents should be locked up along with him for allowing you to sleep around with illegal immigrants.
Hmmm, you're 15 married and have a baby, you must be Mexican too! You and your jailbird husband should just go back to Mexico where you'll fit in better. Don't forget to stop by the Jerry Springer show on your way.
PS - Isn't it about time for you to get pregnant again with another one? After all, you're 15 already, you only have time for about 20 more children before you'll be too old.
your 15 and married??? and all ready have a baby?? by an illegal at that, where in the world are your parents and how did they allow this??? all i can say is bye-bye...
I would need some more information to give you the best answer. Like are you legal or even Hispanic, the reason I ask is because I think it would make an impact on the resources available to you. I think it's good you want to stand by you're husband it sounds like you need each other right now. I would try contacting human rights organization and see what you're options are. I personally don't know of any, but a search of the web should bring up something. And if you have to move to Mexico I would save as much money as possible. Even if that means staying with a friend and working full time. That way you have a little starting money.
P.S I would like apologize for ALL THE RACIST PIGS!!!!!PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN MY ***!!! It makes me sick to think my husband risked his life in Iraq for you pigs ! And unless you're 100% Native American you came from a family of immigrants.
Think long and hard about this one...don't go! You're only 15 and there are a million guys out there.
Go to your parents and tell them you made a mistake and you need their help. Put the baby up for adoption to a loving 2 parent couple who will give your baby what it needs and deserves.
I can not imagine how hard this must be for you, but you have got to think about your baby and do what is right for him/her. Even if it tears you in two. That is what a loving non self-centered parent does.
After you have your baby in a safe place you need to work on you. Go back to school and get an education. I know it will be hard and I know it is something you do not want to do BUT do you want to have a life where you can support yourself or a life where you are completely dependent on another human being. TRUST ME go back to school and get an education and divorce the guy.
Good luck!! (((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))...
Another fine example of why sex is for married people, and definitely not for teenagers. A 15 year old is not mature enough or responsible enough to be a mother, much less a wife. Your situation is sad. Mostly for the innocent baby you've made. Do the right thing for your child and put it up for adoption, divorce your illegal husband, (how's he going to support you or baby from jail???) beg your parents for forgiveness (whether you keep your child or not), and get your life together. Don't move to another country where you don't know anyone. Your "husband" is obviously not reliable. Sorry to sound harsh, but you need a reality check. You acted like a grown up when you had sex, now it's time to grow up and make some big girl decisions. And I don't even believe in divorce, but you do not need to be married at 15 years old. Good luck and I hope you make the right decisions. Find a good church and seek counsel there. You really do have some searching to do. I wish you well.
I guess you should have sitted down together with your family.. Maybe they could help you solve it or at least lead a hand on.. Cause there's no one else could be by yourside at the moment whom is greater than your own siblings and your parents..
I believe that you really loves your husband that's why you've decided to fellow him to mexico.. have you ever thought of if you are going there where could you find place to stay, earn money to raise yourself, where should you started from with a new life in a new places with a baby?? remember now you have a baby so you would have to think bout him/her first.. Don't make any hurry decision..Yes now your husband, he is in jail but why dont you make a different and show it to him after he come out one day?? Cause now you already had a family so you would have to take the responsibility for them. try to think of what's the best for you, your baby and your husband.
Let's say if i'm you. I will be waiting at home and seeking for friends and family's help if they are willing too. Then I will get myself a new life with my baby but still waiting for my husband at home. I will get a job for myself so I would not have to depends on others so much. I will change all my weak point and the weak part of me to be more tough and stronger. In times come if my husband is out from jail, I will let him see what I've done and change.. If he really do loves you, he will be like you change to be a better person and plan for his life..
saying is always easy to do it but I believe that if you really try on for you know what's the best for you, one day there will be miracles showing to you:)
all the best for things going on...
Remember never ever easily gives up!!
"Don't ever let somebody tell you, you can't do something ... You got a dream, you gotta protect it ..."
sure and like your parents actually gave you permission to get married when you were 15. right.
1. Give the kid up for adoption to a family that can actually legally care for a kid
2. Divorce your "husband"
3. Charge him for rape because it is illegal to have sex with anyone under 16, even if you agree to it.
4. Wait till you can actually fall in love, then get married
5. In the meantime, duck tape your legs shut
Taking care of a baby is a huge responsibility it is also the most rewarding job on the face of the earth when you are ready . They are expensive and they dont care how tired you are at two o'clock in the morning. I had my babies in my late 20s with my husband to help me , it still was stressful . Think hard about what is the best for your baby. good luck
Think about your child's future life: Give it to stable adoptive parents. Get yourself on birth control and get some counseling. Stay away from men, you obvisouly have a problem with them if you let yourself get pregnant at your age. If you don't do these things, your kid will be screwed up and so will you.
Go to Mexico with him and never come back to the USA. Tell every criminal you meet in Mexico that real Americans are fed up and about to explode if chicos keep invading.
15 and married? Boy have you screwed up your life!
You are too young. Baby should be adopted. You stop having sex! Dump the bum. (Is he in jail for statutory rape or being illegal?)
Hubby SHOULD get deported! He's a criminal for breaking our laws and getting you pregnant.
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