Is it my fault I fell in love with an immigrant?
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Unfortunately, lo siento, but if he is here illegally, he needs to deal with it. His parents are to blame not these laws and not those on MyTend.com or Americans in general. As you know, most Americans, such as yourself, are descendants of immigrants. I, and I think most other Americans, are not against immigrants but ILLEGAL immigrants. I would say that you are an American victim of illegal immigration. I hope you find happiness in life.
Why should there be a POV?
You like the guy, and that is it!
Why does he have to leave the country? If you are a US Citizen, you can marry him and he automatically gets a green card. I am assuming he was illegally here is the US.
What's the big deal... if you really have a relationship, it will not be that hard to prove to the BCIS.
What's the big deal? If you're happy and he's happy, then we're all happy. You haven't done anything wrong.
Great!! go to Mexico and get married and live happy ever after and do not let any one change your mind. This way, you two will not be separated and you will not have to be without him. If parents really care about you both, they will help you arrange to do this, otherwise, if you both are of age, you can go without their consent.
Go to Mexico with him. You know 'wither thou goest I will go'.
It looks like he has been here for many years. I do not know what will happen, but you are allot like my sister. She married and had two wonderful children with an illegal immigrant. Although I did not think it was a good idea, the kids are great. He is Brazilian.
Was the point of you posting your ploy to stop the anti-mexican/illegal rants?
Are you legally married? If yes, get him a green card, if no, go to Mexico, get married, go to the embassy and apply for a temporary resident visa, then apply for a green card.
Be happy!
is not our business what you do with your personal life
Its not your fault. If he's illegal, it's his parents fault. Innocent people get hurt by the illegal activities of others. We need to draw a line so what happen to you won't happen to others. I do blame your husband a bit since it didn't sound like he informed you in an appropriate fashion. Since you love him. you should have a contingecy of moving into Mexico, until he can stay here in the US. I hope the best for you, and I sympathize with your perdicament. but when making policies, we need to look at the big picture.
First of all, your discription of Mexico, is not totally accurate. Some times you have to make a hard decision. Life is not fair. he best we can do is to try to make it as fair as possible. Its not fair that your husband's family o be here while others are waiting to get in legally. Perhaps you can move to a border city, I think there are those who live on one side and work on another. I heard of radio stations in Tijuana, that the employees are Americans. The commute maybe tough though. The law is not about what an individual wants, but whats best for a community. If we make exceptions, the law can be easily corrupted.
Someone very close to me is in almost the same situation as you.
He fell in love with an illegal immigrant in high school, and is now in college and still together with her. They are eventually planning to marry after college, but do not want to spend years apart from each other in the process.
She was brought here at age five, grew up here, knows next to nothing of her home country, speaks English and wants to stay here. I think she wants to be a teacher of some sort, perhaps a professor.
I think the fact that the anti-south of the border -- believe me, if these illegal immigrants were from Europe there would really be no issue -- xenophobes on this site don't discriminate between illegal immigrants who CHOSE to come here and those that did NOT CHOOSE to come here is sickening.
It is not his fault he fell in love with an illegal immigrant! He did not know! And when he found out, it was not an issue for him! They love each other, and she did nothing wrong!
I hope they stay together for a long, long time.
I think if you get married you can straighten out all of the legal stuff. He sounds like he has been in the states most of his life. It would be like moving to a foreign country for him if he had to go back to Mexico. Get a lawyer if you have to.
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Sounds weak to me. Why wouldn't you be concerned about your immigration status? Don't care, had other things going on, give me a break.
If love is that important to you, go with him to his country and love will cure everything. Then have him wait his turn in line like others who are waiting for years
I wish people would clarify between immigrant and illegal immigrant so everyone would know of which you are speaking. I am assuming he is an illegal alien, my question to you is if you are so dedicated to him and you are of age of course... Why have you not married him, he would get a green card and begin a legal process. You do realize that all 12+ million illegal immigrants have a story to tell that would make all of us want to see them stay but people continue to cross the border at an alarming rate and the illegal workers are now starting to harm our unskilled labor base which can NOT be allowed to happen. All those years of schooling that the person you are in love with received were paid for by the taxpayers and any other services he received. If your story is real I do feel sorry for you but where is the sympathy for citizens who are paying for services for those who are not citizens of this country? We have working poor and children who have dreams and need educations also... Who feels sorry for our people?
I think it is unfortunate that children get caught in this... Parents who do not give a second thought about how these situations will affect their future but we have to stop illegal immigration, we are being overwhelmed. Our point of view is that taxpayers pay for this... all of it, how is that fair either?
Have you thought about going to his country? Assuming you will be let in of course, other countries are much tougher than the US which is ironic...
Do you remember if "Better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health" were part of your vows? You take the good with the bad, just like the rest of us, so you may have to take it to Mexico. There are families here who have lost everything due to the influx of immigrants, one friend (and others) who worked in a packaging plant was sent home while the new immigrants were told to stay. She has lost her home, her transportation, and may lose her children to her ex husband. She is a good person also, never in trouble besides marrying a wife beater.
I have no desire for you to leave your husband, but how dare you to expect the rest of us to sacrifice for you and be happy for you?
If you love him as much as you say, then you must stay together. If Americans have lost jobs to another country, then you just go and get one of them. Problem solved.
You've, no doubt, heard the old adage, "Oh what a tangled web we weave when at first we attempt to deceive." If I understand you correctly, your boyfriend is now being made to pay for his parent's deception by coming here illegally which, in turn, also makes your boyfriend an illegal. By the details you gave, I assume your ages to be in the early twenties. If his parents came here when he was three, then their ages at that time must have been at least in their late teens. One could deduce, then, that his parents came here somewhere around 1968 or so. I've said all that to say this; There have been two (2) amnesty programs since that time, 1986 and 1996. Why didn't he and/or his family take advantage of those? You, therefore, are a victim of what his parents did (or didn't do). I can appreciate your hopes and dreams, but apparently the chickens have come home to roost - so to speak. I wish you the best.
He needs to come into this country legally. There are a lot of wives/husbands that are without their loved one due to one thing or another ex. military. If you are expecting me to feel sorry for your situation I am sorry about that. You know if you feel so strongly about not being apart you could go with him and live in Mexico with him until he becomes legal.
How could you fall in love with Illegal? He has committed Criminal offense and should be deported. there are 300 million people in USA to fall in love with.
It looks to me as a "love" of Convenience.
It is your fault, you knew he is a no no,right?
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